Blog inspired by another blogger I follow

Hello to A/all

I read a blog a day or so ago and can't get it out of my head.

The slave was talking about how hard it is for her to go from being mommy to slave to her Master and back to mommy again.

I sat here and read the blog again trying to find the words I wanted to use to comment on said blog.With little luck on just what I wanted to say without it turning in to a blog on her page I thought hell I will just comment here and share it with everyone.

The slave went on to tell that in order for her Master and her to get some "real" time alone she takes the kids to what I would call a daycare for a few hours a couple times a week. She also talks about how the kids are crying and throwing a fit cause well they are just kids and that's what kids do. She was saying that even with the kids in daycare for the few hours that once back home she still felt bad or like she was doing wrong by them.(or that is the way I took it)

Any way said slave went on to say she still felt like she was letting her Master down in someways and He reassured her she was doing fine and nothing was wrong.

OK with the jest of the blog explained.This got me to thinking and seeing just how much this slave and her Master are just the same as us.Now this came as no surprise to me but it may to some?But as I sat here and read this blog I slowed down to see that if I took and changed the names and the age of the kids a bit. this could have been a blog butterfly could have written.

We also have kids in the home and yes there are times when we just go bananas for them to leave and go to the mall or go to a friends house dam just go some where other than your rooms where we still cant make any noise.

My point is I understand the stress my slave is under cause she has to be mom to the kids and a slave to me as well as up hold the image to the kids that we are just normal vanilla parents.(even though I think they know better just not what level our dynamic is)

I read a lot more than some and way less than others. But when I see blogs where all is happy happy all the time I try and figure out if these couples have kids? how old are they? what they do for a living? not that any of the above would change my view of them or make me pass judgment on them. But more as a curiosity I would say.

I have also read blogs where the couples are way more "hard core" and those are interesting to me as well. I have a very broad taste of things when it comes to the BDSM lifestyle. But I also know at this point and time that with kids at home we cant explore all the things we would like to explore.

So we enjoy what we can when we can and keep our dynamic some what low key but well above vanilla in my opinion. As time goes on I will continue to add rules for butterfly to follow that can be worked in around a home life with children in the home.

As the kids leave home and are out on their own then we can sit down and discuss raising our dynamic to a higher level.

We have only been in the lifestyle a couple of years now and have much to learn yet.But I remember when we first started on our journey all of it was a little intimidating right at first and even now at times things can seem to kinda knock you off balance if your not watching for it.

I think that we all have a desire for this type of lifestyle or we would not be here sharing our ups and downs with each other. But one thing we must not loose focus of is everyday life has to come before our lifestyle choices whether it be kids,family,work etc. don't let it get you down.

In the world we live in all is not perfect nor will it ever be. As our relationships may never be as perfect as the next couples seems to be. But remember to just do the best you can and that everyone has ups and Downs no matter how long they have been in the lifestyle.

Master JB

I offer a sincere apology to A/all

Hello to everyone

I recently posted a blog about something that I had read that really bothered me.

Well some where along the way a few people took what I was trying to say as I was passing JUDGEMENT. In no shape,form or fashion was I trying to do that.

I wanted to write this to try and clear the air with some who have commented and some who posted blogs thinking I might have been referring to them.

The point of my blog was questioning why a person would offer this kinda advise?Make the kinda comments made? or tell them things that will encourage them to just turn and walk away?

Why not offer words of encouragement or some positive advise?

So with that said and hopefully explained a little better?

If my post that was titled "live it before you try to teach it" has offended anyone or made them feel I was speaking about them directly. I offer you a sincere apology my words where not meant to hurt or piss anyone off.
Master JB

LIVE IT BEFORE YOU TRY TO TEACH IT

Hello everyone
I read a blog this morning that really did not set well with me.
Let me get right to the point here. I read a blog about this slave who is what I like to call a "weekender" kinda slave. No I am not trying to belittle anyone I realize long distance relationship do exist.
(I am just making the point of if your not 24/7 then how can you advise anyone else who is?)

So when a weekender slave writes a blog more or less telling other slaves that live a 24/7 lifestyle.
That if you struggle with your submission then maybe this lifestyle is not for you?
That if you question your M/s relationship then maybe this lifestyle is not for you?
That if you have anger towards your Master then maybe this lifestyle is not for you?
That if your selfish then maybe this lifestyle is not for you?
That if you have dissatisfaction with your Master then maybe this lifestyle is not for you?

Yes I know she has watched to much Blue Collar Comedy Tour.

Then goes on to make comments like

"Then I see some who question whether they even LIKE being a slave?"

"But when the same girls blog over and over about their problems with slavery, I would think that eventually, they will either decide they ARE or ARE NOT a slave."

" Girls, MAYBE you just like the kink? MAYBE you just like it rough from time to time? MAYBE you are not a slave?"

" And, if you are not, IT’s OKAY. Just figure it out for yourselves and stop being miserable 4 days out of 7."

" It’s my thought that most of these girls would be totally bored with just a regular “Joe blow,” and a few weeks out of their collar would cure them, one way or the other."

"If you are unhappy in your relationship, or if you don’t think it’s for you, get out.
Try that vanilla man across town, you’ll know for sure then, right?"


Hmm! folks that sure puzzles me about how a "TRUE SLAVE" could tell others to just take off your collar and go fuck good Ole Joe across town and see if that cures your problem of submission.

I think maybe this weekend slave should think about what it means to be a slave vs being a vanilla wife/girl friend who gets horny and drives across town to fuck good Ole Joe when her Ole man is out of town.

Most all of the blogs I read the slaves are married to their Masters. My point being that this so called slave is telling others to just go out and throw away everything they have worked for.

Now I don't know how everyone else feels but I don't think fucking the guy or girl across town is going to strengthen your submission to your Master?

I realize we are all different and we are all at different levels in this lifestyle. What I choose to do to my slave,what I allow my slave to do or not do will at times if not always differ from other Masters. I have in the past read and implemented some ideas from other Masters in our day to day relationship as Master/slave.

I have even offered advise to others that is one of the wonderful things about being able to blog with others in this lifestyle.But when a weekend slave starts to sit and judge other slaves and belittle them when she does not even live a 24/7 M/s lifestyle but proclaims she is dam near the perfect slave.

Give me a fucking break I have yet to see a perfect Master or a perfect slave.Why? because we are all human and we all make mistakes. The important thing is we must learn from those mistakes to ever have a chance to achieve being perfect.

These are my thoughts and I stand behind them. Thanks for taking the time to read my Opinions.
Master JB

Time to move on/and a special Thank You to Butterfly

Hello everyone

Well it is 11:45pm on a Wednesday night and I am sitting and thinking about 8am and the fact I am going to be unemployed.

Part of me says wait don't do it you only called in one day and said your taking a personal day.

But the other part of me say dam it man how much more of your soul can you stand to let these folks take away from you?

So with a sick feeling in my gut I plan to show up fashionably late to work in the morning walk in hand them my keys my work shirts and turn around and walk out.

THE PART BELOW WAS WRITTEN AS WAY TO PURGE MY MIND OF THE PLACE I HAVE BEEN FOR THE LAST YEAR AND A HALF (MY JOB)

For those that might be interested I will kinda fill you in on what the deal is and why it is bothering me and why it is TIME TO MOVE ON.

You see me and butterfly have been together a year and a half. I started this job two days before I got to actually meet her for the first time. I have held this job the whole time we have been together.

My point is in many of her past relationships she has had to support the man not to mention the kids have seen her do this time and time again. I would never want her or them to feel I am leaving this job just to be a dead beat.

Well today me and the boy child where outside working on the door for his room and out of the blue he ask me if I was going back to work tomorrow? I looked him right in the eyes and said son after being off four days and having time to get my thoughts straight No I am not going back.He looked back at me with a serious look on his face and said GOOD!

I thought to myself wow what a good feeling to know these kids understand what I am going through and that I have their support.

You see my days off this week was sun,mon was supposed to work tue just to turn around and be off again wen. Well yesterday I called and said I was not coming in I was taking a personal day(first time I ever used a personal day). Oh the boss was pissed he started crying well you know my father in law(the main owner) is sick and I (owners son in law)am not feeling to well myself (keep in mind he is on his day off but up at the store at 8 am?) and with you taking off that is going to run us really short handed(keep in mind it is tue. we always work with just three people on the floor)are you sure you can't come in? er um NO!

Now let me explain what I was told when I hired on. I was told you get ten sick days per year and ten personal days per year (all of these are unpaid by the way) if you happen to need to use them and you have a open day(day off) you can make up your time so you don't lose any of your hours. LMAO I have called in sick one time in a year and a half and never once was offered to let me make it up. Hmm? I smell a fucking liar( my worthless boss).

Well that is just one of the many problems at this place. The next one that chaps my ass is the way they give us our days off. The lady who makes the schedules every week has no common sense about how to do it. One week she post the schedules on a tue the next week it may be first thing Thursday morning or it may be Thursday evening late so trying to make some kinda plans with the family is next to impossible.

Oh if you think that is enough to push you to the point of telling them to fuck off just wait lol it gets better yet.See where I work they have six cashiers and they have six customer service people(that is what i am).

OK all of the cashiers rotate every other weekend off that don't sound too bad right? No not at all till you take a look at our schedules. You see the customer service people we rotate weekends alright EVERY FIFTH WEEKEND that's right you read correctly we only get every fifth weekend off that is if no one puts in a request for that weekend off which would bump you out of your turn.

Well I should say that there are five of us who have to rotate every fifth weekend. You see our manager and the top customer service guy on the schedule they also rotate weekends just like the cashiers.

Well I got to watching how things was going some time back and I said something to the other guys. They all said hey your right what gives here? I said I don't know but we all need to go to the manager at the same time and say hey man right is right and we would like to have a chance to plan things with our families too.

Well one of the guys who is a little older than me said yeah your right and I will speak up when we all go to meet with the manager. So I ask the other guys hey what do y'all think? Oh yeah we would like to have weekends off more than we do. I said OK well it takes more than just one guy with BALLS to speak up for equal treatment.Oh man they where all on board with it.

Well it seems that the top guy(managers ass kisser caught wind that he was possibly going to have to share his every other weekend off schedule if this made it to the managers Attention so next thing you know a couple of them are craw fishing on setting up a meeting with him.

Well folks I got Balls and I waited and I waited for just the right time to ask him hey what gives on this time off thing? He said whats wrong with the time? I said well nothing if your anyone of the others that get every other weekend off.

But there is five of us out of everyone that don't get every other weekend off and I feel that we should. You always talk about getting burned out/stressed out but yet you seem to have no concern about our well being.

Well his worthless reply was "well that is just how the schedule is made". I said and your the manager you can set it up where we all get some time away from this place other than one day off here or two days off during the week when our friends and family are all gone to work or school.

I could see I had him by the balls and dam if I was going to let up off of him while I finally had his ass backed up in a corner.

So I said and come to think of it I just wanted you to know I am not stupid nor have I forgot what you said when I hired in. 1. learn to cut keys 1.00 raise 2. learn to cut glass 1.00 raise 3. learn to cut and thread pipe 1.00 raise I said been doing all that for over a year now and have not seen anything after the first raise you give me. So the way I got it figured you have pasted me up twice now and I feel I am do for a annual raise on top of that.

Oh man I thought the poor bastard was about to pass out. I don't think anyone has ever had the balls to tell it like it is. (Now folks keep in mind he is my age(late 30's) not some old fart about to die)

Well he did just what I thought he would he went to trying to explain that he spends to much time in his office and not out on the floor to really see what everyone is doing and what all it is they can do or be doing to improve the store. Oh he did say that this crew of guys is one of the best crews he has ever had.(can you see him trying to blowing smoke up someones ass?)

I looked at him and utterly LOL no joke I stood there and laughed at him and said sir I strongly disagree with you on so many levels it is not even funny.Just the fact that we all come to work on our posted days to work we don't call in sick or leave early is enough to give us a annual raise if nothing else. And as far as your answer to the five of us that don't get but every fifth weekend off that sir is a lame excuse and that shows your asst. manager does not know how to make out a time sheet.

Well if you have read this far then you know I basically got the brush off of well uh I uh will uh look into it and see what we can do.

So I have decided that I am done it is time for me to move on to a job that offers some kind of benefits. Butterfly has begged me to quit for some time now. I just kept saying no not yet I think I am making head way here and if I leave who will stand up for the ones who wont or don't have the balls too?

I hope that my time there has brought these guys a little closer to becoming men and that my leaving will be a wake up call for them?

To the guys I work with I will miss each one of you. I hope that in some way I have taught you to stand up for yourselves and what is right. I wish each and everyone of you guys the very best life has to offer. I hope that one day each of you will find the courage to get away from that dark place. There is something there that utterly takes a mans soul away from him and leave him with nothing. I was very lucky to have someone as strong willed as butterfly to keep my will as strong as it stayed and for this the man could not/ did not break me or beat me down.

Butterfly I want to thank you for all the support you have given me over the last year and a half while I tried to make that little corner of the world a better place. I feel in some ways I have failed by quiting tomorrow or rather today.

I will always wonder if anything I did or said made any difference to the guys? I worry that one day they will wake up to realize the man has taken the best years of their young lives and left them with nothing and by then it will be to late to make a change.

Butterfly thank you again for being such a good slave,a wonderful mother, and a dam fine listener/advice giver to the bullshit I have crawled through in the last year.

Master JB

POLY vs SWINGING whats your thoughts?

Hello to all
The other day this topic came back up between me and butterfly.Now before I go any further I want to set the stage so you see my point on this.

I have for long as I can remember felt that I am poly. I don't feel that this feeling comes from a fantasy or the mind set of being greedy or unhappy with butterfly nor do I feel that it matters what other alt. lifestyle you happen to be in.

I cant really explain the how or why I feel this way to where anyone else could understand unless your of the poly mind set sorta speak.

She has known from the start I feel I am poly and the topic has came up several times since we have been together.

Now the other day butterfly posted a blog about poly/swinging and that got me to really doing some thinking about what the real differances are between the two.

I think in some ways that people even myself have long associated the two as being one or the same. When in reality they are not the same(in my opinion).

I see poly as being able to love two or more and them love me and each other as equals not as top or bottom or side.

Now swinging that to me is a whole different world. You don't need love,compassion,caring,etc etc. You just need others who want to have sex.(in my opinion)

For a long time I think I came off as relating swinging/poly as one in some when the topics came up in our conversations.

But they aren't and the more I think back on our talks I can see clearly where I have made a real mess of the two. For those who are in or wanting a poly relationship I owe you an apology for not making myself clear to my butterfly.

Now I am honest enough to say yes I would enjoy seeing butterfly with another woman(hey folks i am human) and I realize that is a fantasy and one day maybe I will?

But as far as us living a poly lifestyle? I would like to try it and see if it could would work out for us.(butterfly knows this no secret there) I realize the amount of time and effort it takes or I say I do.

My next big step is to add a few blogger's to my page and follow their day in day out lifestyles and see what all similarities we have in common.Maybe learn more about why I feel I am poly minded?

I would like to meet some couples in real time and be able to ask questions about why/what was their attraction to the poly lifestyle? I have my own ideas why.But like I have said I want to talk to others who are in a poly relationship and concur my ideas and beliefs are true feeling not just fantasy's.

As I have expressed here I feel that a man or a woman can love more than one and be with more than one without jealously or fear of being replaced.That any two people can love a third. Is this true? Or is this just a fantasy? that only exist in the minds of others?I believe it to be true that three can love,live and be happy together.

When you really stop and think about it there are some many lifestyles that in some ways over lap one another so it is hard sometimes to see a clear image of what is what. This is why I thought this topic might be interesting to post here so that not only I get a more clear understanding but others may as well.

This topic is in no shape,form or fashion trying to say I am unhappy with butterfly.She is a wonderful slave to me and I would not dream of sending her away just to own anouther.I am who I am and with more time and learning I can convy my thoughts better to her with out making such a mess of things.

I welcome any and all to comment on this topic.
Master JB

Wow anouther one of those days.

Hello to all

I was off today from work and sadly butterfly was not. Well I got up had coffee got on blogger to see what all was new and catch up on some of the blogs I had gotten behind on.

Well I got on yahoo and sent butterfly a IM to see what she was doing and chatted with her for a bit about it being payday and going to pick up my check put it in the bank ect ect.

Butterfly told me she has a little over two days of vacation time she needs to use up before next month so she is going to come home at lunch time.(woo hoo more alone time for us)

Well she came home and knowing that my needs were level red she quickly got to work.Now after all was said and done and her ass was nice and red from the spanking she recieved(EG)we laid in the bed for a short time.

Well she said she was craving mexican food so I said ok lets go out for lunch but lets go some where different than our normal mexican food place.

So we did And had such a good time. Afterwards we walked around the mall holding hands and going in and out of some of the different stores.

Wow anouther one of those days you never want to end.
Master JB

Twisted words? or is someone feeling left out?

Hello to all

I posted a comment on Jane's blog. I offered encouragement and said be happy no matter if your in this lifestyle or some other one.

I was informed that another blogger jumped in behind me and left a really odd and nasty comment.

Where do people get off talking down to others? You know what I read sounded like an ex smoker trying to preach about how bad smoking is for your health.

If a slave is feeling worthless then they need to really sit back and take a long hard look at what's wrong in their situation.

Is it just me or did it read like someone was basically passing judgement on others who are classified as a slave?

What does that say about Masters?

Everything I have read, and trust me I read a lot about BDSM lifestyles, is a slave is a Master's most prized possession.

We all have different way of doing things so who is right who is wrong?

Does it really matter that a Masters needs should be met first? I mean if he is taking care of his slaves needs where is there a problem?

So once again in my opinion I believe jealousy has shown its ugly head.

So one really needs to take a long hard look at what needs they have that might not be getting met before so quickly condemning others for what they choose to be or not to be.

Make no mistake about it or twist my words. To me it don't matter what you call your dynamic whether it be M/s, D/s, Daddy/girl, etc.

If your needs are not being met then take a long hard look in the mirror before passing down the ten commandments of BDSM to others.
Master JB