POLY vs SWINGING whats your thoughts?

Hello to all
The other day this topic came back up between me and butterfly.Now before I go any further I want to set the stage so you see my point on this.

I have for long as I can remember felt that I am poly. I don't feel that this feeling comes from a fantasy or the mind set of being greedy or unhappy with butterfly nor do I feel that it matters what other alt. lifestyle you happen to be in.

I cant really explain the how or why I feel this way to where anyone else could understand unless your of the poly mind set sorta speak.

She has known from the start I feel I am poly and the topic has came up several times since we have been together.

Now the other day butterfly posted a blog about poly/swinging and that got me to really doing some thinking about what the real differances are between the two.

I think in some ways that people even myself have long associated the two as being one or the same. When in reality they are not the same(in my opinion).

I see poly as being able to love two or more and them love me and each other as equals not as top or bottom or side.

Now swinging that to me is a whole different world. You don't need love,compassion,caring,etc etc. You just need others who want to have sex.(in my opinion)

For a long time I think I came off as relating swinging/poly as one in some when the topics came up in our conversations.

But they aren't and the more I think back on our talks I can see clearly where I have made a real mess of the two. For those who are in or wanting a poly relationship I owe you an apology for not making myself clear to my butterfly.

Now I am honest enough to say yes I would enjoy seeing butterfly with another woman(hey folks i am human) and I realize that is a fantasy and one day maybe I will?

But as far as us living a poly lifestyle? I would like to try it and see if it could would work out for us.(butterfly knows this no secret there) I realize the amount of time and effort it takes or I say I do.

My next big step is to add a few blogger's to my page and follow their day in day out lifestyles and see what all similarities we have in common.Maybe learn more about why I feel I am poly minded?

I would like to meet some couples in real time and be able to ask questions about why/what was their attraction to the poly lifestyle? I have my own ideas why.But like I have said I want to talk to others who are in a poly relationship and concur my ideas and beliefs are true feeling not just fantasy's.

As I have expressed here I feel that a man or a woman can love more than one and be with more than one without jealously or fear of being replaced.That any two people can love a third. Is this true? Or is this just a fantasy? that only exist in the minds of others?I believe it to be true that three can love,live and be happy together.

When you really stop and think about it there are some many lifestyles that in some ways over lap one another so it is hard sometimes to see a clear image of what is what. This is why I thought this topic might be interesting to post here so that not only I get a more clear understanding but others may as well.

This topic is in no shape,form or fashion trying to say I am unhappy with butterfly.She is a wonderful slave to me and I would not dream of sending her away just to own anouther.I am who I am and with more time and learning I can convy my thoughts better to her with out making such a mess of things.

I welcome any and all to comment on this topic.
Master JB

Wow anouther one of those days.

Hello to all

I was off today from work and sadly butterfly was not. Well I got up had coffee got on blogger to see what all was new and catch up on some of the blogs I had gotten behind on.

Well I got on yahoo and sent butterfly a IM to see what she was doing and chatted with her for a bit about it being payday and going to pick up my check put it in the bank ect ect.

Butterfly told me she has a little over two days of vacation time she needs to use up before next month so she is going to come home at lunch time.(woo hoo more alone time for us)

Well she came home and knowing that my needs were level red she quickly got to work.Now after all was said and done and her ass was nice and red from the spanking she recieved(EG)we laid in the bed for a short time.

Well she said she was craving mexican food so I said ok lets go out for lunch but lets go some where different than our normal mexican food place.

So we did And had such a good time. Afterwards we walked around the mall holding hands and going in and out of some of the different stores.

Wow anouther one of those days you never want to end.
Master JB

Time or the lack of I should say

Hello to everyone

I have been reading several blogs the last few days. Most of which in some form or another all refer to time or the lack of I should say.

Time is a very valuable thing when you really stop and think about it.

I wish I could spend more of my time with my slave butterfly during the week.But due to our schedules we do good to see each other three hours a day during the week.

So when she had told me about a week or so ago she was going to be getting a three day weekend.I ask why? she said due to presidents day and the kids would be in school(you should have seen the grin on my face)

So the next day I filled out a request for my days off to be sun,Mon,Tue.This was on like a Tuesday and the schedule does not post till late Thursday.(another reason I hate this shit job).

Well Thursday finally got here and woo hoo I was off on the days I had ask for.(rare)

Well Sunday was good we did a little running around went and seen my folks which was good.We got to see the grand baby.(yes we are grand parents lol)


Now Monday was a real treat . Butterfly had been searching online for an adult shop that caters more to people in our lifestyle. Well hard to believe but she found one in Houston some 50 plus miles from us.Now there was no way I was going to tell her we can't go lol. I like to go and see what new fetish stuff I can find. (evil grin)


Well before we could get home we needed to make a stops wal-mart,the water company,the liquor store.

We get home supper has been cooking all day in the crock pot so we sit down and have supper with the kids.Butterfly looks over at me and says do you want to go to our room? uh em Hell yeah

Well we put in a dvd on the new dvd player I just bought and got down to trying out some of the new toys we bought.(she can share the rest on her blog if she wants too)

Today butterfly came home at lunch and we got to spend a couple more hours together before the kids got home from school.

All in all this has been a good three days off. Sad to say I have to head back to work in the morning.

Butterfly thank you for such a wonderful two and a half days. It was so much fun doing things out of our normal routine we need to start doing that more often.
Love you
Master JB

Some really screwed up laws

Seen this on the internet and thought everyone could use a good laugh.

In Oblong, Illinois, it‘s punishable by law to make love while hunting or fishing on your wedding day.

In Minnesota, it is illegal for any man to have sexual intercourse with a live fish. (Apparently it‘s OK for woman.)

No man is allowed to make love to his wife with the smell of garlic, onions, or sardines on his breath in Alexandria, Minnesota. If his wife so requests, law mandates that he must brush his teeth.

Warn your hubby that after lovemaking in Ames, Iowa, he isn‘t allowed to take more than three gulps of beer while lying in bed with you or holding you in his arms.

Bozeman, Montana, has a law that bans all sexual activity between members of the opposite sex in the front yard of a home after sundown if they‘re nude.

In hotels in Sioux Falls, South Dakota, every room is required to have twin beds. And the beds must always be a minimum of two feet apart when a couple rents a room for only one night. And it‘s illegal to make love on the floor between the beds!

The owner of every hotel in Hastings, Nebraska, is required to provide each guest with a clean and pressed nightshirt. No couple, even if they are married, may sleep together in the nude. Nor may they have sex unless they are wearing one of these clean, white cotton nightshirts.

An ordinance in Newcastle, Wyoming, specifically bans couples from having sex while standing inside a store‘s walk-in meat freezer!

A state law in Illinois mandates that all bachelors should be called master, not mister, when addressed by their female counterparts.

In Romboch, Virginia, it is illegal to engage in sexual activity with the lights on.

In Merryville, Missouri, women are prohibited from wearing corsets because "the privilege of admiring the curvaceous, unencumbered body of a young woman should not be denied to the normal, red-blooded American male."

It‘s safe to make love while parked in Coeur d‘Alene, Idaho. Police officers aren‘t allowed to walk up and knock on the window. Any suspicious officer who thinks that sex is taking place must drive up from behind, honk his horn three times and wait approximately two minutes before getting out of his car to investigate.

A law in Helena, Montana, mandates that a woman can‘t dance on a table in a saloon or bar unless she has on at least three pounds, two ounces of clothing. (Ouch! These pasties hurt!)

Anywhere in the U.S., it‘s illegal to use any live endangered species, excepting insects, in public or private sexual displays, shows or exhibits depicting cross-species sex. (Insectophiles apparently were successful in their lobbying efforts.)

Lovers in Liberty Corner, New Jersey, should avoid satisfying their lustful urges in a parked car. If the horn accidentally sounds while they are frolicking behind the wheel, the couple can face a jail term.

In Carlsbad, New Mexico, it‘s legal for couples to have sex in a parked vehicle during their lunch break from work, as long as the car or van has drawn curtains to stop strangers from peeking in.

Women aren‘t allowed to wear patent-leather shoes in Cleveland, Ohio - a man might see the reflection of something "he oughtn‘t!"

No woman may have sex with a man while riding in an ambulance within the boundaries of Tremonton, Utah. If caught, the woman can be charged with a sexual misdemeanor and "her name is to be published in the local newspaper." The man isn‘t charged nor is his name revealed.

It is illegal for any member of the Nevada Legislature to conduct official business wearing a penis costume while the legislature is in session.

Now that is not only funny as hell but some really screwed up laws.

Twisted words? or is someone feeling left out?

Hello to all

I posted a comment on Jane's blog. I offered encouragement and said be happy no matter if your in this lifestyle or some other one.

I was informed that another blogger jumped in behind me and left a really odd and nasty comment.

Where do people get off talking down to others? You know what I read sounded like an ex smoker trying to preach about how bad smoking is for your health.

If a slave is feeling worthless then they need to really sit back and take a long hard look at what's wrong in their situation.

Is it just me or did it read like someone was basically passing judgement on others who are classified as a slave?

What does that say about Masters?

Everything I have read, and trust me I read a lot about BDSM lifestyles, is a slave is a Master's most prized possession.

We all have different way of doing things so who is right who is wrong?

Does it really matter that a Masters needs should be met first? I mean if he is taking care of his slaves needs where is there a problem?

So once again in my opinion I believe jealousy has shown its ugly head.

So one really needs to take a long hard look at what needs they have that might not be getting met before so quickly condemning others for what they choose to be or not to be.

Make no mistake about it or twist my words. To me it don't matter what you call your dynamic whether it be M/s, D/s, Daddy/girl, etc.

If your needs are not being met then take a long hard look in the mirror before passing down the ten commandments of BDSM to others.
Master JB